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The dark side of silence

Giving someone the silent treatment can be harmfully addictive for the perpetrator.

Silence is not only an instrument of subjugation, it can also be weaponised as what is known as "the silent treatment". PHOTO ILLUSTRATION: ISTOCKPHOTO
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When I was a child, it was common to hear the English proverb that children should only be seen and not heard. I never quite understood why that should be so - maybe it was thought we should learn the virtues of silence: modesty, deference, refrain and politeness.

I don't remember that my parents particularly imposed that on me, but I do remember that in my first year of primary school, I was shy.

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